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10 tips for Successful Homeschool Lesson Time Issue 387
August 14, 2015
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Not sure what happened in my house this week - Daniel studied, Nomi resumed her TAFE studies as well, I finished one major project and worked a little on my decluttering. The week has just disappeared.
Last Sunday we met some young folk at church and invited them to park their van on our farm as they visited the area - we spent a lot of time talking together. While they were here they blessed us by taking Nomi for a driving lesson, cleaned out a blocked drain and built a outdoor-kitchen-kit for me. So nice to have those things done.
As I write this - Little Miss is waking up grumpy - so today will be about setting boundaries and keeping her positively engaged!! Putting into practice last week's newsletter about setting our children up for success! (see the link below if you missed that)
This week I'm sharing a blog post on How to make your Mummy-Break Happen, you can read it below or click over and read on my blog.
Live life with your Kids!
How to make your Mummy-Break Happen
I am a big supporter of mums taking a Mum Break – of taking time out from the normal everyday responsibilities in order to refresh. And yet reality is we can’t just walk away from our responsibilities – it takes time and effort to make a Mum Break happen.
What does a Mum Break look like?First of all we need to see that there are different types of Mum Breaks – some are short and sweet, some are extended. Some are taken in your home, some you need to get away for.
Mum breaks I have taken over the years:
The purpose of a mum-break is that mum finds time, in her day, to be refreshed, recharged, revived. There are different seasons in our life and each season will bring different responsibilities, different limitations, and different opportunities. We won’t be able to take a break the same way every day, every week, or every year. We need to see that we have options, and then we need to make the most of the options available to us at this time in our life.
We need an Attitude Change
When I was a young mum I had to have an attitude adjustment when it came to taking time out. I remember being really cranky with Peter because he was very intentional about resting on Sunday. It was his time-out, he knew it was important for him to be refreshed for the coming week. And yet, Sunday for me, a mum with a toddler and baby was anything but restful. There is always nappies, bottles, baths, messes to clean up and prepare – let alone getting to church and making sure all that happens! As I was grumping at God about how unfair it was I heard God say to my heart - What are you going to do about it? You are the boss of your days, you can plan and prepare for what happens in your days – unlike Peter who has to answer to clients. How can you make rest days happen?
A few lessons I learnt as I responded to that prod:
Make it happen:
The first thing I needed to do to make it possible for me to take a mum break – regardless of what Peter was doing, was to train my children. My goal was to be able to take a break, every day, while Peter was at work. When my children were little they had naps, then as they grew older, these naps transitioned into rest time, which then transitioned into room time (quiet play in their room, by themselves for a set period of time). I determined to use these times for myself; I took 1-2 hours a day to read, do craft, or nap.
But training my children was more than just putting them in a room for a time and having uninterrupted time to myself (though that was wonderful!) My children had to learn that I was one of the ‘others’ in their life. We taught our children to consider the other person, to be kind, to be aware of the needs of others but we rarely consider ourselves (mother) as one of those ‘others’ – and yet we are. When we are intentional about making opportunity for refreshment, then we create an opportunity to teach this aspect of loving one another.
Tips I’ve learnt along the way
Don’t be a Martyr
Sacrificing for the benefit of others is at the heart of being a mum – but I’m not sure that it is necessarily a good trait. We see it as noble, and yes, we do need to put other’s needs ahead of our own, but not to the point of exhaustion or bitterness. We need to be responsible stewards of the resources God has given us – and that includes our emotions and our energy: in essence - our body.
The other aspect where we tend to become a bit martyr-ish is in how we communicate to our husband. For some reason we expect him to read our minds – to know when we need rest, and to know how we best recharge. I remember early on Peter would be available to have the kids while I caught up with friends, or did my chores around town by myself. It was nice, but what my heart dearly yearned for was time at home, by myself. He wasn’t to know unless I told him. We need to communicate our needs to our husband, not so he can fix it all, not so he can arrange it all, though he may be a part of the solution; we communicate with our partner because knowing where each other is up to is a part of being married.
Take ActionSo if its been a while since you feel you’ve found any time to yourself – big or small – go make a cuppa, set the kids up with an activity that will occupy them for 15-20minutes (yes a DVD could be a good thing!!) and think through:
Other blog posts I've written recently:
Last week's newsletter - Setting your Children up to Succeed
10 tips for Successful Homeschool Lesson Time
and something random from the archives: Principle vs. Practice - We need to know the difference.
Blending Life with Lessons e-book - Does your everyday life challenge your homeschool ideas? This is my journey as I discover that it is possible to disciple my children in today's busy lifestyle.
Heart Focus Parenting book/e-book - A heart focused parent will keep their attention on their child's heart for God, instead of on external behaviours.
Restoring the Heart, Mind and Soul of Christmas Do your Christmas celebrations line up with what you believe? Do your celebrations help your children learn more about Jesus?
This e-book is based on a workshop I held for a couple of years to help families see that Christmas can be a significant tradition in our family life. If we are intentional about how our family celebrates we have the opportunity to use this time to teach our children about Jesus, and his love for each one of us.
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