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That's a Very Good Question - Issue 331
January 31, 2014
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This week has been a very productive week. Peter and Daniel continued to fix up the garden and our new sprinklers are all working. Daniel also worked on a movie-making project, read and continues to write stories. Naomi started her studies for the year and in her free time made a teddy bear. Jess started her new TAFE course and Josh continued with his studies. I am in ‘rest’ mode as I have a sore shoulder and doing much more than scrapbooking hurts! LOL. The kids have been wonderful not only doing what needs to be done, but protecting me from myself as I often think just this little thing won’t hurt (but it invariable does!!) We continue to have rainy days – as I type this early Saturday morning, the storm clouds have come over again and it is drizzling rain. We are loving this wet season. One of the good conversations we had this week around the dinner table was addressing family night: What is the purpose of family night? And what kind of things do you kids like to do together? Do you have any plans for family time this year?
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That's a Very Good Question
Some would say that asking a good question is even better than the answer. I’m not so sure about that as I think it is important that we gain wisdom and understanding (which comes from an answer) but asking a good question is certainly an important part. This week Daniel asked, what I thought was a good question: If there was no sin in the world, would we still have computer games? This lead to a conversation about adventure, danger and pain in light of God’s creation and the fall.
It was a good question because it lead to a conversation, it lead to further understanding, which leads to growth!
Our hesitancy to encourage questions often comes from feeling inadequate to give answers. Three things will help here:
As a mum I can quickly tire of questions – especially in the preschool age years. They have questions about everything. Often they repeat the same question for no other reason than they like the sound of their own voice (or so it seems to me!!) This is a really good time to start teaching our kids to ask good questions. Good questions have answers. Good questions have answers about something you didn’t know yourself. So instead of mindlessly answering the 50th question for the day, stop and help them think through the issue. Is there really an answer? Do they already know the answer? And then tell them; assure them, that you are available to answer good questions, to help them find out things that they don’t know.
There are two types of good questions – questions that want to know the facts and questions that want to understand heart issues: beliefs, convictions, choices etc. We need to encourage both.
Questions can have a simple one word answer or they can lead to a conversation, hearing a person’s heart or knowledge. With Daniel’s question I could easily have given my opinion – yes or no. But in honour of him asking a good question I had to pick it up and interact with him over it. The first thing I said – was a question. We need to move away from a teacher/student interaction, where the teacher knows the answers. Instead we need to move to a conversation based interaction where the teacher/student sparks off each other with questions and ideas and knowledge. And yes, this takes time.
Four things that will encourage our kids to ask good questions:
We hear encouragements to parents to talk to their kids, to ask the right questions to get to the kids hearts. But maybe if we encourage them to ask questions we’ll hear their hearts that way as well. Learning to ask good questions is high on our learning objectives for this year. Here are a few activities we’ll be doing:
Do you encourage good questions in your family life?
*children/child – this topic is relevant to children of all ages. I am still encouraging my teens and young adults (and myself) to learn to ask good questions, to think about what we are hearing or seeing and ask good questions.
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