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Family Life with Meaning - Issue 330
January 24, 2014
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Over the last few weeks we have been enjoying a great wet season – lots of rain. What we need now is a few dry days to make the roads drivable and we should have some wonderful waterfalls to enjoy. Pete has been over east to visit his family. Josh was over that way at the same time going to a conference aimed at helping youth apply the gospel to every area of life. Jessica has signed up for a Business Admin course – she’ll be studying externally which suits her and the other commitments and interests she has. Our Naomi has turned 17 – we celebrated with a walk into a nearby swimming hole with a few friends. We’ve had great conversations, played a few games over dinner and watched a few movies. We’ve been in holiday mode, of sorts! I’ve started to plan our studies for the coming year, and if the kids aren’t working with Pete they’ll be doing a few hours of focus until we start our study block in full swing early February.
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Family Life with Meaning
Christmas is over and we may breathe a sigh of relief – all that activity, all that stuff (and if that is how you feel about it, maybe you need to reconsider how you do Christmas, but that is another topic!) A big part of Christmas for our family is the idea of building family – building our children’s hearts: their love for Jesus and their connection with family. So yes, it is a busy time, but we do it on purpose!
This week I’ve been pondering what next? Not in terms of New Year’s resolutions – but in terms of how are we going to continue to build our children’s hearts?
Traditions are something that you do over and over, on a regular schedule. It might be a daily, weekly, yearly tradition. When we make time for these things to happen, regardless of how busy life is – we are telling our children these things are important. This is one way we can transfer values into our children’s hearts. I find it a challenging idea: What will our children take with them into their adult life. Not that I want them to copy everything that we have done, but at the same time, if the things we do have a value behind them, I believe our kids will take the value but probably create new activities. I actually look forward to seeing the creative ways our children live out the values that are a part of our family now.
This is why we need to know why we do these things – do we just celebrate birthdays, Christmas, and have family nights because that is what happened when we grew up? Or maybe because that is what happens in the culture we live in? We must be more intentional than that. Our traditions will be empty social events unless they are built on our values.
I am sure there are already practices in your family life that are creating these opportunities, but it is a good time to pause and check to see if those family activities, or traditions, are meeting your expectations. As our children grow older the family dynamics change, and if we are to be intentional about family life and the building of our kids’ hearts, we may need to change what we do in order to build the values which remain constant.
Here are some ideas to start with:
Why are you doing the things that you do? What do you hope to impart? I have just listed some of the values behind the activities that we have done over the years. You may use family life for different values. You may have other activities and events that are meaningful and purposeful to your family.
It is easy to just get caught up in the activity of either family life or traditions, without considering the values that you are actually celebrating. There are things on this list that I feel we need to polish up on – things that we’ve let slide in our own family. Considering the value – rather than just the practice – gives me motivation to do something about it. Maybe it is the same for you. Often when I re-evaluate and find things missing it is easy just to rewrite our whole family life and add everything that I ever wished we had happening. That is a sure way towards failure. The key is to find the activity/value that is the most significantly and yet missing and to work on adding that to your family life. Of course, what that is will be different for each family.
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Check out other homeschool and parenting issues over at my website, Lifestyle Homeschool
Blending Life with Lessons e-book - Does your everyday life challenge your homeschool ideas? This is my journey as I discover that it is possible to disciple my children in today's busy lifestyle.
Heart Focus Parenting book/e-book - A heart focused parent will keep their attention on their child's heart for God, instead of on external behaviours.
Restoring the Heart, Mind and Soul of Christmas Do your Christmas celebrations line up with what you believe? Do your celebrations help your children learn more about Jesus?
This e-book is based on a workshop I held for a couple of years to help families see that Christmas can be a significant tradition in our family life. If we are intentional about how our family celebrates we have the opportunity to use this time to teach our children about Jesus, and his love for each one of us.
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