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Finding Interests that Interest your Kids - Issue 328
January 03, 2014
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This week has brought in the New Year. We celebrated with a group of friends with an “Eastern State’s New Year’s Eve” Party – which basically meant we celebrated in a different time zone so we didn’t have to stay up late! We had a games night, with nibbles and finger food for dinner. Over dessert we all shared something we were thankful for and something we were looking forward to or needed prayer for in the coming year. We then spent time in prayer. It was such a delight to hear the young people encouraging each other and then praying honestly. It was actually a bitter-sweet night as we were encouraged in our friendships but at the same time saying goodbye to one family. Of course no New Year ’s Eve party is complete without fireworks but since they are illegal we settled for Sparklers instead!
The week since has been a quiet one of rest for our own family – we have been fairly busy between Christmas and New Year so it was nice just to have some chill time together. We’ve watched some videos, played a game or two, and went to a waterhole for a quick swim. Next week we pick up the pace a bit with working around the house on some projects and making sure we work on our creative projects as well.
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Finding Interests that Interest your Kids
One of the goals I have for my kids is that they pursue passions and interests that they have and that they develop skills that are supportive of those interests. We create plenty of ‘free’ time away from their studies to allow this to happen (read more on Productive Free time) but what happens when they have no interests? When they shrug off any suggestion you make?
When this has happened in our family I have noticed a few things happening :
If we are going to inspire our children to be inspired, we need to know which issue we are working with. One thing parents often say is, “my child is not interested in anything’, and yet their child is a whizz with technology, a train buff, a skilful sportsman or creative artist – these things may not fall into your expectations, but they do need to be recognised as interests and/or abilities. I think our kids obsession with technology is often (not always) an excuse not to try new things – I also think parents obsession with blocking their interest in technology is often (not always) not recognising the value in this aspect of life.
It is helpful for us to know why it is so important for our kids to find these interests, especially if our kids have reached teen-years. When our kids are young, we just set the activities for them but as they get older we need to be facilitating their growth, and if they aren’t taking any interest in their growth it is very frustrating. At this point it is good to be able to talk to our teens and tell them why this is so important to us, help them see that we have their best at heart. And encourage them to have some vision for their own life. We then need to be committed to helping them develop the things; whatever it is they talk to us about.
Why do you want your kids to have a hobby or interest?
Here are some practical things that you can do to help your child find some interests:
One more aspect we need to talk to our kids about and that is the issue of character. They will face many situations in life where they will have a choice: will I or won’t I? Right now their choice is: will I learn something new? Or won’t I? Will I use my time wisely? Or won’t I? Will I give up? Or won’t I? Filling our afternoons with the pursuit of interests, learning new skills and being creative or productive will give us plenty of opportunity to work on these heart issues.
When our kids are young we have the opportunity to develop these skills often without conflict because the things we want them to do are more like play: Lego, dolls, sandpit, painting, recycling art, reading, riding bikes, playing board games, taking photos, jumping on the trampoline, playing trains, imagination games, dress-ups etc… So it is a good time to develop the habits of productive free time. It is when our kids move from playing to hobbies that we often see things starting to crumble.
It is easy to give up at this point, especially when our teen just shrugs, but this is the time in our teen’s life where they have the opportunity to learn so much – let us not miss this opportunity because of the road blocks. We are still the parent, and though I’m not suggesting for a minute that we force them into things, we do have the responsibility to continue teaching and training them – maybe the first lesson we need to consider, is not so much what to do, but their willingness to step out of their comfort-zone and learn – this is a heart issue.
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