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Dare to Disagree - Issue 315
September 20, 2013
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This week we have continued to make great progress with Daniel and Nomi’s independent study skills, though Naomi was interrupted as she was heading to Darwin for a netball competition. This week I have been reminded of the importance of us talking about God stuff to our friends; of sharing the good things God has done, of discussing things that we struggle with or been inspired by. As we take the time to share these deeper things in our life, our relationships will be enriched.

Jess is doing well in Uganda. Her time there is almost finished; she is doing all those last minute things that we always jam into a holiday or project away. Last Sunday we spent a while chatting over the internet – amazing what technology can do – but really internet has been fairly intermittent so it has been hard for her to keep in touch… all the more stories for us to hear when she gets back. She enjoyed the National Park they visited – lions, giraffes, hippos… a different world indeed.

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Dare to Disagree

Our minds are inundated with information. I have emails coming through on marriage, parenting, homeschooling, homemaking, scrapbooking, website building, taking photographs, cooking, and then of course I have all those emails that offer me millions of dollars! LOL. Information is so easy to find but we don’t even have to go searching for it – it comes to us these days.

After a while it can be confusing though. At the moment I’ve got two campaigns coming through my email box – one is telling me Pilates is the way to go, and the other is telling me to do weights. And I read them and just wish I could get up and go for a walk!!

Information is overwhelming and often conflicting.

One of the things that we do to help us through this crazy maze is we fine tune who we receive information from. We unsubscribe to those that we don’t enjoy and we keep those that we do.

But even after weeding out and hopefully reducing our information load to somewhat reasonable we must read whatever we decide to read with our thinking brains on; whether it is a blog, newsletter, book, or magazine. We don’t have to agree with everything. We may agree with most (which is why we keep reading) but we can dare to disagree.

We teach our children not to believe everything they see on TV, or read or hear. We should be using the same logic for the things that we are exposed to as well. Just because it is has been published (in print or video) does not mean we have to believe it to be true, or right. We do not need to agree.

Just this morning, in my little bit of browsing time, I came across two parenting ideas that I disagreed with – both where from reputable sources, that I will continue to draw from. One was saying that we shouldn’t have to discipline our kids (I think she was talking about punishing not discipline, but that is another topic!), and the other was quoting Susannah Wesley – and yes, I dared to disagree.

When we disagree we are thinking; we are thinking through our values, we are thinking about where our family is at – and this is a good thing. Our conclusions and decisions may be wrong, we may be reacting and missing the underlying truth, but I still think that we need to read with thinking not just blindly accepting.

The guard for us so that we don’t ‘get it wrong’ is to have a base line – and that would be the Bible. What does the Bible have to say about…. [fill in the blank]. For the Bible does have something to say on all topics – or on all our responses to life.

Acts 17:11 encourages us to think –
Now these [Berean] Jews were more noble than those in Thessalonica; they received the word with all eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see if these things were so.

And when addressing the people of Thessalonica Paul says: but test everything; hold fast what is good (1 Thess 5:21)

We are to think, but not just think whatever is good for us, whatever makes us happy at the moment. We are to base our thinking on the Word of God. If we are to use the Bereans as a model – we are to study and compare the things we hear with the Scriptures every day.

But we need to be careful not to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Just because you disagree with one aspect it doesn’t mean you don’t need to read on. It is much the same in personal relationships – just because you disagree in one area, doesn’t mean you can’t be friends and continue to support each other. I make this connection, because I read as if I am having a conversation with the author - we can be friends without me always agreeing. The things that we read (outside of the Bible) are man’s thoughts – yes, they may be inspired by studying the word of God and by living a life with Jesus, but we need to continually come back to the Word of God and if things don’t line up – then we don’t hold to them.

Of course, as a writer – someone who is putting thoughts out there – I hope that people agree with me. But ultimately I want to stimulate your thinking and to help you come to a place where you know what you believe and why, that you come to a place where you are putting into practice the things that you say you believe. I am sure that there are times that you don’t agree with me, and I am glad that is the case, ‘cause it means you are thinking as you are reading and that to me, is important.

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