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When their Struggle is not Yours - Issue 311
August 16, 2013
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My favourite part about this week has been that I have had friends staying with us. We’ve enjoyed evening meals together, going out for coffee, going dress shopping, scrapbooking together in the evenings and a morning out at a water hole / creek. It has been great having them here. I think Daniel’s favourite part of the week has been that Mr S (our friend) has managed to get a go-cart working – Daniel has spent time in the shed working on that with him. As Daniel zooms around the farm, I have had to still my mother heart and trust that he will be a responsible driver – though I know full well it is all about risks!! On the homeschool front we are working on Nomi and Daniel writing up their daily ‘to-do’ list in their diary, helping them to be more responsible for their studies and how they spend their time.
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When their Struggle is not Yours
What our children find hard will differ to what we find hard. They struggle in math, numbers are your thing; they hate writing, you find using words easy; you love sport, and they are not interested; you can say no easily, they always want to say yes; you love being with people and they are shy. Each person in our family is unique – we will bring different personalities, quirks, habits and abilities to the family dynamic. But how do we help our children when our strengths are their weaknesses?
One thing I’ve noticed over the years that to each weakness there is a corresponding strength. Someone maybe so flexible that they appear unreliable or uncommitted (and we’d see that as a negative) but, it also means they are completely available to people (which is a positive). Sometimes it will help us to really focus on what our child’s strengths are – and rejoice in that. When we continually deal with their struggles we lose perspective.
When I get frustrated with my kids inability (apparently) to ‘get it’ I like pause and reflect on my own life. There are still things that I struggle with, my head can be full of useful strategies to help me overcome my weakness, but I still find some things hard to do. This then becomes the basis of acceptance for my kids. I need to be gracious, helpful, kind. Some issues may well be with them for the rest of their lives – will I be okay with that? I need to be.
During the week I blog at Live Life with Your Kids! I haven't actually written this week but I did post over at Aussie Homeschool: Scrapbooking for the Reluctant Writer.
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Blending Life with Lessons e-book - Does your everyday life challenge your homeschool ideas? This is my journey as I discover that it is possible to disciple my children in today's busy lifestyle.
Heart Focus Parenting book/e-book - A heart focused parent will keep their attention on their child's heart for God, instead of on external behaviours.
Restoring the Heart, Mind and Soul of Christmas Do your Christmas celebrations line up with what you believe? Do your celebrations help your children learn more about Jesus?
This e-book is based on a workshop I held for a couple of years to help families see that Christmas can be a significant tradition in our family life. If we are intentional about how our family celebrates we have the opportunity to use this time to teach our children about Jesus, and his love for each one of us.
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