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Chore Time for Mum - Issue 235
January 27, 2012
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This week we celebrated my Dad’s 70th birthday (actual day this time). My Dad is largely responsible for whom I am today – and I don’t say that lightly. Dad has always encouraged me to be true to myself, to think and yet to stretch and grow. He has been beside me with loving and accepting arms when I have failed and encouraging words when I struggle. He has taught me to think and to stand up for what I believe. He taught me that I was God’s daughter first, His daughter second and with that identity, all would be okay! He now gives that love and encouragement to his grandchildren. As a family we are very blessed to be able to build upon his shoulders. So thank you Dad – and happy birthday!
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Chore time for Mums
My kids do a lot of household chores – between the four of them they keep the kitchen, bathroom, family room clean and tidy, they do the family laundry and look after outside chores as well. They are totally responsible for their own bedroom and ironing. They each cook a few evening meals a month.
What is left for me to do you may ask!
My main responsibility is to train them in their responsibilities. I may not be doing much of the actual chores, but I am training. Training in and of itself is a chore – it is my job every day.
There is a downside to this though – your house may not look like you wish it did, it won’t look like a magazine cover. As homemakers ourselves, we have to come to a place of contentment – that our home is a training ground, it isn’t a showcase.
When my kids were little I of course did these tasks, but I had my children working alongside of me; learning, not only the skills, the how-to, but also the heart for work, for serving and for being a team. Doing household chores is a very good heart training ground. If we aren’t careful though we forget the heart and just get the house clean.
So the important things to teach are:
As I have said in the past, a key motivator for me is that I want my children to have the skills necessary to look after their own responsibilities as an adult: their time, possessions, money, and self. I also want them to have the skills necessary to look after other people – to be able to help people outside of themselves.
It is important that we know, deep in our heart – that we are convinced, why we are teaching our children these chores. Once I know my ‘why’ I can start to work on ‘what’ I’m going teach, ‘when’, and ‘how’. If we don’t know why then we will feel bad when our children challenge our decisions.
Training really is a full time job. Remember training our kids involves
Sometimes it is just easier to get in and get it done yourself – but you are short changing your kids if you do this. Training is emotionally draining as well as time consuming. But you and your children will reap the benefits. If you want to increase what your children are doing around the house – spend this week observing all that you do and ask yourself the question – which one of your children could do this task? Or - Which one of your children needs training in this task? Take notes and start to prepare for a time of training and adjustment. They may or may not need training, they may need reminding and encouragement, but bit by bit get your children to do the things you know they are capable of doing, then move onto training them to do a little bit more.
As a wife and mother we wear many hats – now you can add Trainer to the list!
Read more on my website: Responsibilities
What Every Child should know Along the Way is a very helpful book as it gives a list of household responsibility (aka chores) that the authors consider age appropriate. You may tweak them (as I have a little) but it does give you a guide and a starting place. It also has a great section on Character training.
I blog during the week over at Live life with your Kids Blog. Over the last few weeks I've posted:
Blending Life with Lessons e-book - Does your everyday life challenge your homeschool ideas? This is my journey as I discover that it is possible to disciple my children in today's busy lifestyle.
Heart Focus Parenting book/e-book - A heart focused parent will keep their attention on their child's heart for God, instead of on external behaviours.
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