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Heart Conversations with my Kids - Issue 221
October 14, 2011
Hi there! ....

This week has been completely different than last week. Ironically I wrote about finding time to refresh and I end up having an enforced rest time. I hurt my back and all I could do was lay flat and rest. For the few things that I did have to do out of the house Josh became my chauffeur. I am slowly on the mend though I am still taking things careful and my children are being very bossy as to what I can and can’t do!

One thing that has amused me this week is that I asked Daniel what he was going to do for the day and he said, “ummmm, arrrr,….. read”. I said, (without thinking) “you can’t read all day”. The funny thing was all my children looked up at me, as if to say “who are you, and where is my real mother!” I quickly came to my senses – “Oh, of course you can read all day!!” It has been a delight to us all, to see Daniel taking leaps and bounds with what he is reading. He read all day!!

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Heart Conversations with my Kids

We often talk about the heart of our child – but do we know what the heart is? In summarising the Hebrew word for ‘heart’ as used in the Bible, the heart is

  • the inner man, the conscience, the soul
  • the mind, the place where we understand, think, reflect and know things
  • where we have inclinations and make resolutions to determine our will
  • the place where our character springs from
  • the seat of our passions and emotions

The heart is the place, deep inside each of us that makes us tick.
It is our belief system.

(Heart Focus Parenting)

And as parents we have the opportunity to shape our children’s hearts. We cannot make our children believe anything, but we can surround them with truth and the opportunity to process and practice living by that truth. I have brainstormed the truths that I want to shape my children’s lives (though I am sure this is not a conclusive list by any means). For these things to have any impact on my children’s hearts, they must be evident in my life first. These are the things I’m sharing in the 31 days of Heart Conversations on my blog.

Australian’s have a national saying “she’ll be right, mate!” and yet this philosophy does not work when it comes to being a biblical parent. We must be intentional. To be intentional means that you think about something beforehand, it is premeditated. To be intentional means you have a purpose, and you know how you are going to walk towards that purpose. To be intentional means that you are deliberate.

Do you know the truths that have shaped your life?
Do you know the truths that you want to shape your children’s lives?
Are you working on imparting these things?

Conversation is the biggest teaching/learning tool that we use in our home. We talk about everything. From math concepts to how things work to history and art. But the things I love to talk about the most are the things that will shape my children’s life. The things that will shape their belief system.

What do my children believe about how to spend their time, about being a leader or about being a follower, about fashion, about their purpose in life, about money, about gender roles, about the church, about their salvation, about work and success, about marriage and family?

Romans 12:2 says: Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Teaching my children these things is not an academic pursuit. I will have the most impact on my children if my words come from my heart. Deut 6 says very clearly that before we can teach our children God’s Word we must have it in our heart first. This is true for anything. Children quickly see the hypocrisy when we expect them to do something and yet we are oblivious to the lack in our own life. Children are also very gracious – they don’t expect perfection from us, they do expect honesty.

If we truly understand how significant these conversational opportunities are in the growth and maturity of our children we will begin to give them precedence. We may even have to rearrange commitments we have in order to spend time with our children. I am a stay at home mum and yet one of the things that I often get challenged with is - am I emotionally available to my children? I can be physically present in the same room, and yet my heart is focused on something else and I am not really available at all to my children. This is not good.

I want my children to be able to connect God’s word with every part of their life, with every decision they have to make. Not necessarily waiting to hear a voice boom from heaven before they do anything but knowing that God has given us his truth in his Word and our lives can line up with that.

The Heart Conversations I’ve shared so far:

  1. Love the Lord your God with all your Heart, mind and soul
  2. Love your neighbour as your self
  3. Spend time in the Word Daily
  4. Prayer is talking to God
  5. Stay teachable
  6. Conviction versus Preference
  7. Rest, Leisure and having Fun
  8. Be a Communicator
  9. Finding our Purpose
  10. Be a Leader
  11. Seeing the World from God’s Perspective
  12. Foundational Beliefs
  13. Clothes Make the Man – so the say!
  14. Pursue Wisdom

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Belinda Letchford
Living life with her kids in Australia!

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