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I'm tired - Issue 167
September 10, 2010
Hi there! ....

This week This Saturday we are very excited because we are staying home!! We have been out of the house every Saturday morning for about 16 weeks in a row. So considering Saturday morning is our house cleaning day – well, we won’t go there!! I enjoy being home – not that I want to be a hermit – but being home gives me the opportunity to be with my kids in a way that is totally different than when we are out and about. Being home gives me time to relax and regroup. I like being home!!

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I'm Tired

I am sure we are all familiar with this cry – I’m tired. Sometimes it is said with a whine, sometimes it is just a statement. Sometimes it is our kids who say it, sometimes it is us.

There is a good tired, and there is a tiredness that we need to look into deeper, find its cause and find some answers. The good tired is the result of hard, physical effort. This is the weariness of a good day’s work. Work is good. But the other tired isn’t related to one event and one good nights sleep won’t fix it. This type of tired is ever present, it seems to perpetuate the feelings of being tired, never ending and it affects all areas of our life.

  • We struggle with character issues like patience and self control
  • We lack energy, focus and motivation
  • We find it hard to make decisions and stick to them
  • We are snarky and our moods change, affecting our relationships

This type of tiredness is a consequence and we need to get to the root cause and make changes so we can get through our day – actually we want to do more than get through our day – we want to be alive, enjoy and thrive in all that God has given us.

One book that has had an impact on my thinking (and I’m working on it, letting it impact on my life as well) is Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives by Richard Swenson. He says “Margin is the space that once existed between ourselves and our limits. It’s something held in reserve for contingencies or unanticipated situations.” We don’t have this any more. Our lives are crammed full – we have commitments, activities, plans and information. Every part of our life is full to the brim. We have so much of this ‘good life’ that we are making ourselves sick. Richard Swenson as a doctor was constantly seeing people in his clinic that were tired – real tired, lived to the max and he couldn’t just give them a pill to fix it – they needed to make changes.

This is the point that we are often at. We need to make changes. Sometimes I think we hear the words “priorities” so often that we tune out but bottom line is if you want to live an effective life you need to know your priorities. This knowing isn’t like the Greeks – they sought after the knowing of the mind, knowledge. We all know our priorities in our head – we can rattle them off: God, Family, Others (a simple list, but you get the idea – we know our priorities.) The Hebrews on the other hand have a different way of understanding knowing. They know with their body, spirit, and mind – it is a whole thing. This takes knowing our priorities beyond just information, beyond just the facts – it takes it into the realm of doing something about it – living it out. It also puts into the realm of worshipping God.

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart,
as working for the Lord, not for men,
Col 3:23 (NIV)

Does the way we work out our priorities please God?

The feeling of tiredness feels like the bones are sore, they ache. So I checked out some Proverbs where bones were mentioned and started to think about this verse:

A sound heart is the life of the flesh:
but envy the rottenness of the bones.
Prov 14: 30 (KJV)

I thought about that word envy – how does that apply to me, how does it apply to my tiredness. Envy is when we want what we don’t have. I think this is at the core of our tiredness. We want more time, so we push the clock. We want more money so we take on an extra job. We want more recognition so we take on another project. We want more…. (fill in the blank) it is all envy – wanting what we don’t have!

God has given us all 24 hours, he gave us night and day. He gave us responsibilities. There has to be His way of matching this all up.

I believe God has a good plan for our days but does it include this level of tiredness that makes us unable to do the things he calls us to do? I think not. I think when we arrive to this place we have something out of kilter, we have to make changes.

  1. Check my relationship with God – am I making Him a priority, am I giving of myself to Him, giving of my time? This is how you build relationship.
  2. Am I looking after my body – it is the temple of God, the place where He resides and does His work! Am I eating right, exercising and making sure I get enough sleep.
  3. Plan my days – with God’s goals in mind. My plans need to be in keeping with God’s priorities for my life (which will reflect the season of life I am currently in). This may mean (and I am sure it does) I let go of some unrealistic, self driven ideas.

The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
he restores my soul.
He guides me in paths of righteousness
for his name's sake.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil, for you are with me;
your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.
Psalm 23 (NIV)

Blog Updates this week
Internet Reading – links to different things I’ve been reading online
Systems that work for me: Writing a Shopping List
Character Resources
Giving Instructions to the Easily Distracted Child

And over at Homeschool Blogger’s Company Porch I wrote: Manners – touch the heart

Blending Life with Lessons e-book - Does your everyday life challenge your homeschool ideas? This is my journey as I discover that it is possible to disciple my children in today's busy lifestyle.

Heart Focus Parenting - A heart focused parent will keep their attention on their child's heart for God, instead of on external behaviours.

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Belinda Letchford
Living life with her kids in Australia!

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