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It's a Timing Thing - Issue 165
August 27, 2010
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This week we've continued to focus on reading living books and notebooking our learning. I have outlined to the kids our learning process - we read, speak and create. The speaking (giving retells or narrations) is a key aspect in this process as it can lead into discussions about heart issues. We can easily settle for wonderful learning experiences that teaches our children amazing knowledge but we need to put more value on the heart lessons, the discussions about God's ways. This is the type of lessons that leads to a true education.

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Cautiousness - It's a Timing Thing

Doing the right thing
at the right time.

I have really enjoyed studying cautiousness with my children – maybe because there has been real practical application right where we are at. Like silliness – I love hearing my children having fun together at chore time but it doesn’t take long and it becomes silly. With a very well placed question, “Are you being cautious right now?” the children have been able to pull themselves up knowing that chore time is not the time to tackle, giggle and carry on!!

We’ve had lots of good conversations about what it means to do the right thing at the right time, and conversely, what would it mean to do the right thing at the wrong time. It is like the ‘being silly’ – there is nothing really wrong with the fun that my kids have, it is just at the wrong time. Another example was in changing the conversation – there could be nothing wrong with the new topic you want to introduce but maybe it isn’t the right time. Telling jokes needs caution – you know it is a good joke but is now the time to tell it? The kids know they need to ask permission for certain things but is now the right time to interrupt what I’m doing in order to ask? So you can see there is plenty of application in a family for cautiousness.

When we study a specific character trait though it isn’t just about teaching the kids how to make good choices – it is as much about me. So the question needs to be asked – am I cautious? Do I do the right thing at the right time? Or am I rash – doing good things at the wrong time.

This is the character issue behind us taking on too much, overcommitting ourselves and saying yes to things without thinking. Those things are the result of a lack of caution.

We often think of caution as being timid, afraid to go forward but that is not the definition that we’ve been studying. Instead it means to “know that there is a right time to accomplish right actions” (Character First). It is a timing thing.

There is so much good stuff to do, to be involved in, and to run with. Whether it is good curriculum choices, good topics to study, good books to read, good activities to do, good sports to play, good groups to belong to, good places to go to and good people to meet – but we can’t do it all. We really need to know if now is the right time to do this good stuff.

A very well known passage describes God as a God who know the right time for the right actions – Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

  • A time to be born and a time to die
  • A time to plant and a time to harvest
  • A time to kill and a time to heal
  • A time to break down and a time to build up
  • A time to weep and a time to laugh
  • A time to mourn and a time to dance
  • A time to cast away stones and time to gather stones together
  • A time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing
  • A time to get and a time to lose
  • A time to keep and time to cast away
  • A time to rend and a time to sew
  • A time to keep silence and a time to speak
  • A time to love and a time to hate
  • A time for war and a time for peace

God has his right timing for everything. Are we patient enough to wait for God’s timing. Or do we get so excited (or anxious) about the opportunities around us that we don’t wait to see God’s timing for us?

It is easy to give the excuse that this is such a good thing – we are not talking about doing wrong things here – they are good things we want to do. But are they the best for our family? Are they the best for where our family is at right now?

For I know the plans I have for you,
says the LORD. They are plans for good
and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. (NLT)
Jeremiah 29:11

We often feel we will miss out if we don’t do this now, but if we are consistent with our priorities we won’t miss out on the right stuff. We need to know what our priorities are and ensure than any commitment or activity we take on is in keeping with those priorities.

Let’s finish now with that question - Am I cautious? Do I do the right thing at the right time? Or am I rash – doing good things at the wrong time.

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