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But My Child is Different - Issue 164
August 20, 2010
Hi there! ....

This weekend Australia goes to the polls. It is a time where Christians start to be serious about praying for our nation though we should be praying for our nation all the time – for its leaders, for the people and their values. A nation won’t really change by electing different governments; a nation changes one heart at a time – one heart turned towards God – a grassroots change so to speak. So as we pray for our nation, let us also pray for our friends, family and neighbours and let us be the face of Jesus that they see.

Some trust in chariots and some in horses,
but we trust in the name of the LORD our God.
Psalm 20:7 (NIV)

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But my Child is Different...

These days it seems as if many children have difficulties or differences, challenges or disabilities. Some of them are considered hidden (like in our Daniel) because the children seem to have a reasonable degree of functioning but some are very obvious. Even giftedness falls into this category because they become different than the norm. These differences in our children add a different dimension to our parenting – some hard things but definitely some joys.

Daniel has taught me a lot – I am a different parent, thanks to Daniel. He has taught me to hug, to sit and cuddle. He has taught me to slow down and listen. He has taught me to choose my battles carefully. He has taught me that there is more than one way to achieve a parenting goal.

When we have children with differences we have to be very clear what our goals are – what is the next thing we are working on and to what end? It is easy to get lost and not see the forest for all the trees. We get so caught up in the detail of this current challenge that we don’t consider the big picture.

The big picture for these children is the same as the big picture for any other child. Our goals remain the same – that they learn to love God with all their heart and that they love their neighbour. The only thing that is different is that the time and effort required may vary – actually, it will vary, from child to child (difficulty or challenge aside!) Parenting is a journey and each child, regardless of their extra challenges, will travel at their own speed, they may take their own detours but the destination must remain the same.

Destination: To love God and love others

  • Our children need to know God’s Word and have a desire to obey
  • Our children need to know how to pray, and involve Jesus in their life
  • Our children need to learn respect, obedience and self control etc

We cannot afford to make the excuse – my child is different. We may need to accept that they are, we may need to work with these differences, but never use them as an excuse for disobeying God and disrespecting people.

Two verses come to mind (and I’ve already used one of them at the beginning of this newsletter)

Some trust in chariots and some in horses,
but we trust in the name of the LORD our God.
Psalm 20:7 (NIV)

It is easy to trust in programmes and professionals – and they will be a help but the biggest help will be our belief, trust and hope in Jesus and seeing our child as Jesus sees him/her. We need to pray for our children (as I am sure you do), we need to pray for wisdom and insight so that we may help our little ones.

Never do we need God’s wisdom more than when we feel totally out of our depth, when we feel exhausted and have no idea of what to do next. God is faithful.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God,
who gives generously to all without finding fault,
and it will be given to him.
James 1:5 NIV

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Belinda Letchford
Living life with her kids in Australia!

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