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Connections lead to Relationships - Issue 160
July 23, 2010
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This week we attended a communications seminar in town – it was over two nights – discussing positive communication and conflict resolution. Our oldest three sat in on the sessions and it has been good to talk, just casually, about some of the concepts presented. I look forward to these communication concepts being worked out in our family as we continue to grow together.
This weekend we are hosting a parenting seminar called “Will my Child be Okay” and Jessica is running a kids club with the help of her siblings and friends. This has been a big step for Jess as she has planned the programme – finding a balance between teaching and activities. It is an exciting thing to see your children step up and be involved in the community.
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Connections lead to RelationshipsSometime ago I was in a conversation where we were talking about how we could reach out to other people and the statement was made:
Connections lead to relationships
This is a very true statement and one that we can ponder on for every relational area of our life:
Start with connections and build onto relationships.
What are Connections?
Connections are made when we are in the same time/space as another person - doing the same thing, talking about the same thing, enjoying the same thing: having children the same age, enjoying the same hobby or sport, sharing the same home town or school, being at the hospital together, being on a committee together, being at a class together. Connections can be made when we are walking down the street, at a party, or at a neighbours house. These activities alone don't often allow a relationship to develop at that moment - but a connection is made - will we take it further?
Working on Connections
Keys to building on connections:
What is Relationship?
I have a friend who came out from South Africa and one of her observations about Australians is that we are very friendly and we say “hi” to everyone. Then she noticed that to those people we have connections with we say “how are you?” but this is said as we pass by – we don’t stop to hear the answer – it is actually a part of the initial greeting “Hi, how are you”. This actually means “hi” - it doesn’t mean ‘how are you’ at all! Now when she pointed this out I must admit it was received with a bit of a grin, and I can see my Australian readers grinning now – that is just the way we are. But I was challenged – it may be just the way Australian’s greet people but is it helping me build relationships? No, it is not. It keeps connections but goes no further.
We all have different levels of relationship. We may call people acquaintances, friends, or soul mates. Even within the sphere of ‘friends’ we have people we let closer than others. The idea isn’t that we make all people equal in our heart life. But that we rise to the challenge that there are people out there that we have connection with and if we are intentional about it we can build on that connection, establishing a relationship. It is from that place of relationship that we will be able to share Jesus’ love with them.
I live in a town that has a fairly transient population and many people block themselves off from hurt by not getting to know people in the first place - they reason that saying goodbye is too painful. And yet I look at it another way. I believe the people I have got to know, and who have then left town, have shaped my life for the better. I would not be 'me' without them. We need to invest in people and allow them to invest in us. Our life will be the richer for it.
We have connection with our children all the time. We can take hold of those shared ideas or experiences, and share our life (our inner heart, passion and energy) with our children and let them share theirs, or we can let the experience pass by as a fleeting moment in time – a lost opportunity.
Life is all about relationship. It starts with connections but we’ve got to step out and take it further – intentionally build relationship with those people around us (including our children).
Related Articles from Lifestyle-Homeschool
Though these articles aren’t specifically about building relationship with our children they address some of the things that hinder us:
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