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Choices - We can't do it all! - Issue 150
May 07, 2010
Hi there! ....

This week: This week we celebrated our eldest son, Joshua’s 17th birthday. It was a fairly low key event – Josh is a low-key kind of guy!! But we tried to spoil him and make him feel special as much as he would allow!

Happy Mothers Day to you all! Happy Mothers Day to my mother. One day not long after my daughter Jessica was born, my mother was giving me a pat on the back for handling the situation around Jessica’s birth (a story in itself, but this story is about my mother!!) I chuckled and answered my mother – “but that is exactly what you did!” I hadn’t given my situation a second thought – I was able to cope, I was able to do well, because my mother had done well in similar circumstances. The way my mum has lived her life is the example set before me. Thanks Mum!

"The noblest calling in the world is that of mother.
True motherhood is the most beautiful of all arts,
the greatest of all professions.
She who can paint a masterpiece or who can write a book
that will influence millions deserves
the plaudits and admiration of mankind;
but she who rears successfully a family of healthy,
beautiful sons and daughters
whose immortal souls will be exerting an influence
throughout the ages long after painting shall have faded,
and books and statues shall have been destroyed,
deserves the highest honour that man can give."
- David O. McKay

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Choices - We can't do it all!

We make choices all day – we choose to sit at the computer, we choose to read our Bible, we choose to exercise, we choose to do the housework – or not! When we make a choice to do one thing we are automatically making a choice not to do something else (or vice versa) – we cannot do both options – this is the nature of choice.

We teach our children to see the consequences of their choices – these consequences maybe positive (rewards/blessings) or they maybe negative (cost/penalty) depending on whether the choice was a good choice or not.

But there is another fall-out to our choices – the fact that we can’t choose two things at once! The truth is we can’t do it all. If I have two good choices, and I choose one then it automatically means I can’t do the other. This is a hard truth to deal with. There is so much good stuff out there to do – but making choices is a reality we have to be aware of.

I make choices as a homeschool mum – I choose to take on this study, I choose to read this book, I choose to spend this amount of time doing this particular thing, in this particular way with my children. My choices need to be well informed, and consistent with my belief system. I need to be aware of the consequences, the repercussions of my choices, and I need to be okay with that. I need to remember the very nature of making a choice is that I can’t do everything – I need to make a choice.

  • If my child is sick I choose to look after her – I cannot also choose to do the science experiment or excursion I had planned.
  • If my child needs extra help in their math today – I cannot also do the extra writing assignment I had planned.
  • If our family is enjoying this read aloud – we cannot be reading this other fantastic book.
  • If our family has a passion for a particular field of study – we cannot also dig deep into the field of study that another family is digging deep into.
  • If our family has this goal – we cannot take on the dreams of another goal.

When we say yes to one thing, we are saying no to another and that second option needn’t be a bad option – just not the option we are choosing right now.

Key thoughts:

  1. Making a choice for something means making a choice against something else
  2. Making a choice will have its repercussions

When we understand these two facts, we can move on and stop undermining ourselves. We need to make wise, informed choices – understanding that there are consequences (good or bad) and then we need to find a contentment in the choices we made (knowing that we can’t do it all – we had to make a choice). Finding this contentment in our choices will

  • stop us from comparing ourselves with others (who have made different choices)
  • stop us from trying to squeeze in one more activity, commitment, idea or homeschool method
  • help us understand we cannot do it all

So I encourage you today to be aware of the choices you are making – whether it is in how you spend your days, or in your curriculum choices, or in your schedule; whatever choices you are making be aware that that very choice means you won’t be able to do something else. You cannot do it all. If you cannot be content with your choice, and its repercussions then you may need to look at making a different choice but don’t always be changing your mind thinking the grass is greener on the other side.

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Belinda Letchford
Living life with her kids in Australia!

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