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Out and About with Kids - Issue 136
January 22, 2010
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Today I have released my new e-book - Blending Life and Lessons. This is my journey as I discover that it is possible to disciple my children in today's busy lifestyle. Read more
This week our daughter Naomi, turned 13. What celebrations! I never cease to be amazed at how much learning goes on when we have a party. For years now the kids have done most of the organising for each other’s parties. They cook and decorate the cake, plan the theme, food, games and design the invites. They set up everything and they run the party themselves (I tend to have a cuppa with my friends - the other mothers!) When they plan a party not only do they have to work together and consider each others ideas and preferences there are a lot of practical skills being worked on too. With this party this week the kids used a couple of computer programmes to make invitations and then flashcards for a game, a thesaurus to find synonyms for ‘bizarre’ (which was the theme for the party), they made a huge game board (like Snakes and Ladders) on the floor which used some spatial awareness and thinking skills, they made a huge dice, they thought through a practical sequence to the games to play, considered little people as well as the kids their own age, and I am sure there was more. These things alone covered math and language as well as people and organisational skills. So the next time you are floundering in your homeschooling – let the kids throw a party and let the learning begin!
Live life with your kids!
Out and About with Kids
Taking our children out in public can often be a negative experience. There’s a lot to do to get ready and then the child embarrasses you or hassles you and no one has a good time. We are left wondering if it is all worth it!
I’ve listed some generic type of situations we find ourselves in where our children misbehave and we don’t quite know what to do next: Shopping, doctor’s appointments, church, visiting friends, travelling especially by plane, playgroups, local café / restaurant
A child is likely to
There are several aspects to dealing with these behaviours
They are just kids and these things will happen
Could it be that -
Instead of these reactions we need to know what our goals are, what our standard for behaviour is and how we are going to get our children there. If we are not sure, we need to find help, do research and come up with a plan. When we are intentional and secure in our goals, we will be more likely to live them out regardless of where we are.
We need to be committed to giving our children unconditional love. This means, regardless of how many times they stuff up, how many times we are disappointed, frustrated, or even at a loss – we will show them love. How many times when we are out and about do we ensure that our love is showing? We must find a place where we can balance love and acceptance with instruction and training.
What happens at home will be reflected when we go out
How can we be training for these social situations?
We have to do our part
No social situation ever takes us away from the responsibility of being a parent. We represent our family where ever we go – even when our children are not with us. But when they are with us, we have to be the parent; it is always a hands-on role.
What happens that is that when we get out and about we have extra things on our mind, and our parenting sphere plays second fiddle, our vague connection with our family comes to a crashing holt when our child ‘suddenly’ does something inappropriate. If we were acting like well behaved parents, we would be aware of our child before this happened. Aware of what their needs were for them to behave correctly in this situation. I am not saying that we can avert every negative behaviour but we can certainly stop it in its tracks from becoming habitual behaviour.
Some questions to ask ourselves when we are considering taking our children out of the house-
These questions are not aimed at making us decide to stay home every time, to always use a babysitter, and to avoid social situations with our children. On the contrary, we can aim to have our children join us in any family life activity but we need to see the seasons of life. We need to take a season to train our children, to give them the skills necessary to be with other people, and then we can enjoy a social life with them beside us.
NEW! Blending Life with Lessons e-book - This is my journey as I discover that it is possible to disciple my children in today's busy lifestyle.
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