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Housework in Perspective - Issue 135
January 15, 2010
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This week we have continued in decluttering and cleaning our house. Peter and the boys have scrubbed down the outside walls of the house and the girls and I have cleaned out a couple of rooms including the cupboards. It has been so rewarding to work together and see the fruit of our labour. We took the kids out for dinner last night just to say thank you and to celebrate being a family.
The other highlight that has happened is our family devotions. We are reading through the book of Galatians as the minister at church is doing a series on this over January. It has been great to tussle things of God out with our older children and to see our younger children sitting and listening. We’ve encouraged the younger two that though they may not fully understand everything that is being said, little deposits are being made as they listen and ask the occasional question – little deposits that will be built on as they grow older. It is delightful to study the Bible together as a family and a great way to start our day.
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Housework in Perspective
There have been various seasons in my life where my focus, learning curve and priorities have changed. When I first got married my main focus was homemaking and learning to be efficient in all that it meant to be a homemaker. I already had the skills but now it was my personal responsibility and I had to pull it all together. I set specific goals and worked towards improving in those areas. From what I remember of those goals there were
As you know, effective goals have a deadline and my deadline was ‘by the time babies come along’. And for the most part I made this self-imposed deadline.
But seasons come and go. As my babies arrived my priorities shifted. I still needed to be a homemaker but my learning curve, my study, my priorities shifted from learning to be a homemaker to learning to be a parent (and yet still balance homemaking!)
This change is reflected in my bookcase – titles like “More Hours in your Day” by Emily Barnes and “The Family Manger” by Kathy Peel, moved over for books like “What to Expect in the First Year” by Murkoff, Hathaway, and Eisnberg and “What is a Family?” by Edith Schaeffer.
Then came homeschooling…. Another shift in the books I was reading (Cindy Rushton, Chris Davis, Sally Clarkson to name a few). But life doesn’t consist of one sphere of responsibility. I was still a wife, a homemaker and a parent – and these spheres aren’t static; life brings changes which affects the balance and requires new skills. My spheres were increasing and yet I still only had 24 hours!
I believe firmly that relationships come first – that is, my relationship with God, my husband, my children – then come my responsibilities. And yet, they are very closely intertwined. If I spend all day playing games and building my relationship with my children, what does that benefit them if there is no food in the house! So finding that balance with homemaking is a matter of perspective, priorities and practices.
How’s your perspective?
We need to be able to assess our priorities. Some priorities are underlying – they never change – we build our life on these understandings. Some priorities need to be set for a season and some priorities need to be set for the day. We have to be able to let go of things – not to let our home go to rack and ruin, but to be realistic with the things we take on.
What can you realistically achieve in your home and maintain all the growing relationships therein?
One of the most important heart lessons I have learnt as I balance housework with all the other aspects of being a homemaker is the issue of Contentment - Realizing that true happiness is not hindered by material conditions (Character First). Can I be happy with my surroundings if they are not perfect, to ‘man’s standards’ or my expectations? What makes me happy – my clean house or …..? To be honest, a clean house does make me happy but it is a surface happiness, a happiness that can be marred as soon as a cup of milk is spilt – this is not true happiness – true happiness comes from being in tune with our God and maker.
Jesus does not define me by how clean my house is, how well decorated it is, how good a cook, gardener or seamstress I am. He does though ask me to love my neighbour – and that starts with my family.
While we are thinking homemaking you may be interested in reading the few articles I've written online: Blending Homeschool and Housework
NEW this week is another article on Sincerity - Where Heart and Actions are in Sync
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