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The choices we Make - Live life with your kids - Issue 094
March 13, 2009
Hi there! ....

My week: One big event in our household this week was that Joshua started to teach Daniel how to mow the lawn. Daniel was very quick to ask for his paycheck – mowing the lawn is a “work for pay” job in our family. The exciting thing about this isn’t so much the money (well, the money may be important and exciting to Daniel!!) but to me it was seeing my children grow up; to see my youngest step into the shoes that his big brother has filled for many years. It is comfortable, and easier, to let the older ones continue to do the tasks that they do so well, and yet if we do that the younger ones never learn the skills necessary. The flip side of this is that eventually Joshua is going to be released from the lawn and will be able to step up into some other activity or skill. Everyone is growing up!

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Character Notes for Mums
Discretion - The Choices we Make

Recognizing and avoiding words, actions and attitudes that could bring undesirable consequences. ~Character First

Discretion is all about choices – we have a choice with what words we use, what attitudes we dwell on, what actions we put in motion. And yet so often we don’t consider the consequences of our choices. As my children have got older I have realized that they see ‘consequences’ as a result of their poor choices but consequences are also a result of positive, wise choices. This is the basis of intentional parenting – to be aware of what you are doing, and why, and to work toward the outcome you desire.

Are you aware of the consequences of the choices you make as a parent?

For many years, my children would knock on the bathroom door and I would answer them. This didn’t seem to be a big deal. Generally they were just asking for permission to do something. One day I heard myself complaining that I couldn’t even get 5 minutes to myself in the bathroom. It dawned on me that this was a consequence of my choices – I chose to answer them, they kept knocking! Another consequence to this situation is that I had to retrain my children. I had to train them to respect my time, and in doing so I also had to train them to wait or to solve problems themselves.

Often retraining our children is a consequence of our poor choices. Instead, we need to start out as we intend to continue. We need to have a long term goal and we need to remember those goals in our day to day choices; we need to remember the bigger picture.

What is your big picture?

Instead of asking yourself – what do I want my child to look like at the end of ‘my parenting years’ ask yourself – “What does God want my child to look like?” This should be the foundation of our big picture for our family.

(Mic 6:8) What does the LORD require of you, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God? Which is in keeping with the greatest commandment that Jesus gave, (Matt 22:37) You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind and the second is like to it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.

Are our parenting choices in keeping with these verses?

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Belinda Letchford
Living life with her kids in Australia!

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