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Forgiveness Towards our Children - Live life with your kids - Issue 075
October 17, 2008
Hi there! ....

This week:

I have been aware this week how often we stop doing what we are doing in order to talk about something. This week we have talked about abortion, about our family’s standard for what we watch, character versus skill in the business arena, we have discussed what particular verses in the Bible mean and how we apply them to our life. These issues, and more, are wisdom issues – the application of knowing Jesus issues. Though we also speak often about knowledge things, history, science and characters in our stories, I want to make sure that I always have the time to talk about these heart issues, these relationship issues.

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Character Notes for Mums - Forgiveness

Forgiveness – clearing the record
of those who have wronged me
and not holding a grudge.
- Character First

The flip side of teaching our children to recognize their sin and to put it right is to have our heart so turned towards our children that we forgive them, and that we keep Jesus’ command in mind to forgive them 70x7 times (in one day!).

What does it look like to forgive our children?

Get rid of all bitterness,
rage and anger,
brawling and slander,
along with every form of malice.
Be kind and
compassionate to one another,
forgiving each other,
just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:31-32

When we forgive our children we will

  • get rid of bitterness
  • get rid of anger
  • watch our tongue

It is medically proven unforgiveness can cause sicknesses such as heart disease, cancer and strokes. When we have these diseases in our physical body our body doesn’t function as it was designed to. The same happens to our relationships when we have unforgiveness in our heart – our family won’t function as it was designed to.

  • Do you get annoyed at the repetitive nature of your children’s misdeeds?
  • Do you get snarky at having to tell them over and over and over?
  • Do you remind them that you’ve already been here and they should have got it by now?
  • Do you react to a situation, in presumption, really expecting them to do it again?

When we forgive our children we will

  • be kind
  • be compassionate
  • remember that Christ forgave me

When our children do wrong, one aspect of their actions is that it is against us, our relationship is affected. We need to recognize this and truly be ready to forgive. In fact the Bible doesn’t tell us to forgive only when the person asks for it – Jesus prayed “Father forgive them, they know not what they do”. The people nailing him to the cross didn’t ask to be forgiven and yet it was offered. We need to work through our attitude of forgiveness, even before we address our children’s actions – is our heart so turned towards our children that we can forgive regardless of their response to me?

From a heart of forgiveness, where I am not holding their actions against them, I am not angry or out to get them, I can better help my children address their heart issues.

Actually I can take my response even further, beyond just clearing my heart from the anger (annoyance) towards them, I can turn my actions to being kind, compassionate and full of empathy. When I deal with my children do I remember:

  • that I too am a sinner?
  • that Jesus has had to work in my life, in my heart?

Does my heart cry for my children’s hearts, that they be turned towards Jesus, or do I just want them to do it right? (so I’m not inconvenienced again, so I don’t look bad again, so I can tick that off as taught!)

Never forget the three
powerful resources
you always have available to you:
Love, Prayer and Forgiveness

H. Jackson Brown Jr, quotes
(American best selling writer, author of Life's Little Instruction Book)

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Belinda Letchford
Living life with her kids in Australia!

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