Intrapersonal Skills

Intrapersonal is to do with self. The dictionary gives the meaning of Existing or occurring within the individual self or mind.

In our homeschool efforts this means we want to train our children to be the best self they can be. This is not talking about a selfish attitude, of looking out after number 1 – far from it! It is looking at who the child is and making the most of the inner self.

Another word, one that is becoming a popular term these days, is Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand and manage your emotional life, which in turn will affect the life of others around you.

Links within this page:

Benefits with studying Intrapersonal Skills
How to teach Intrapersonal Skills
Leadership Skills
Public Presentation
Self Management
Knowing my Myself
Emotional Health
Gender Skills
Physical Health
Purity Issues

You will discover much inter-twining of information from this page to the other pages of this website. This is the beauty of a lifestyle of homeschooling. As we live our life with our kids, these areas have the opportunity to develop in each of their lives. I list these aspects to reassure you that these areas are a part of the homeschool scope and sequence.

Whatever you are, be a good one!

- Abraham Lincoln

Benefits with studying Intrapersonal Skills

There are many benefits for being aware of the Intrapersonal area in our lives, and in the lives of our children. Some of these are:

  • Increase in self confidence, which leads to forming friendships easier, working with people more effectively and taking more responsibility.
  • Generally an increase in intrapersonal skills will increase productivity as you maximise working conditions and environments to work with you not against you.
  • As you learn to understand yourself you begin to understand others, which gives you more tools to handle conflict. Remember conflict always involves two people.
  • People with high Intrapersonal skills initiate in new situations more quickly and with more ease.
  • Such people are more resilient against negative behaviour that is aimed at them.
  • Research shows that Intrapersonal skills are connected to academic achievements.

How to teach Intrapersonal Skills

Positive Affirmations We can take positive steps to build up and encourage our children to be strong persons.

Leadership Skills

God created mankind to have dominion – to rule the earth. (Genesis 1) It must be noted though that it wasn’t to rule people but to rule the spheres of the earth. Our children are to have the skills that will enable them to rule in any circumstance they find themselves in.

When it comes to the sphere of people – Jesus taught that leadership means servanthood. As quoted on our Character Education Page, relationships with people does lead to influence. Influence is Leadership. We want our children to see situations where they can serve, to find solutions to tricky problems, and to be available to people – this will give them the opportunity to influence others.

The other sphere of leadership in is the sphere of Self. We are to govern self, which is why it is so imperative to impart values and character to our children. Though leadership is more to do with heart than position we don’t want our children to find themselves with ability and not the character to carry out their potential.

Public Presentation

We want our children to have the confidence within themselves to be comfortable socially in any situation.

This includes issues such as:

Self Management

Our children need to adopt a set of values for themselves that will direct their lives. For most children this process begins in their early teens, and intensifies mid-to-late teens. Our children will not be successful in life if they ride on the coat tails of our value system. They must have their own.

Remember that our belief system dictates our values and our values will direct our actions.

See our Family Bible Study Page and / or Character Education Page

Issues that affect Self Management:

Cowardice asks: Is it safe?
Consensus asks: Is it popular?
Conscience asks: Is it right?

~ Dr Martin Luther King Jr


We were not made to do life alone. We were made for community. One of the most fundamental skills we need to acquire in order to relate to the people around us is the ability to communicate.

Reliable communication permits progress.

- Prov 13:17 (TLB)

Knowing my Myself

Each and every one of us has been created uniquely. God says, He knew us as we were made in secret, He knew us as we were knitted together in our mother’s womb.

There are aspects of our life that flow a little more smoothly if we know ourselves too!

This includes:

  • Learning Styles
  • Multiple Intelligences
  • Love languages
  • Temperaments

As we have lived with our children and kept our ears and eyes open to different aspects of their makeup (and our own) we have been able to maximise many learning opportunities for them.

Emotional Health

Handling our emotions is one of the first things that we teach our children as toddlers. We want them to have self-control. One of the hardest things to learn is that yes, we have these emotions, but what do we do with them.

Healthy Intrapersonal skills will lead to healthy emotional skills. Some of the areas where we deal with our children's emotions are:

  • Anger Management
  • Empathy for others
  • Mood Management
  • Teasing / Bullying

Character training is the best tool that I have for dealing with these issues. I recommend that you visit Character Education and / or Character Notes pages, which give specific how-to's with training in various character traits.

Gender Skills

Though I don’t wish to enter the debate on equality of the sexes, I do believe masculinity and femineity. We were created equal and yet so different. Though I do want my children to be prepared for every situation they may find themselves in, I am training them to excel in particular areas of life and their gender may well define a certain path.

For my boys, I want them first of all to be strong men; men who love God, men who are stable in the community and yet able to step out and take risks.

For my girls, I want them to be soft in heart, to be gentle in their actions and speech and yet strong in their convictions.

Many of the practical skills, will remain the same between boys and girls and yet in some situations there may be a stronger focus for one or the other. See our Responsiblities Page

Physical Health

While our children are living under the roof of their parents, it is likely that they have limited choices as far as a healthy lifestyle goes. The goal of our training though is that when they live on their own they will be able to make wise choices in regards to how they live their life.

As we live life together as a family there is plenty of opportunity to teach into these areas.

  • Nutrition
  • Exercise for health
  • Sportsmanship and Competition
  • Sport in Society

Purity Issues

In this day and age innocence is so quickly lost as children are introduced to a world of adult lifestyles and decisions. I want my children to appreciate who God has made them to be – be that female or male – and the preciousness of that. I want them to look forward to the day when they get married, knowing they have followed all God’s ways, to be pure in body, heart and mind.

Emotional Intelligence Programme to help Families

Learn more about emotional intelligence and how that can affect your child and your family. is an organization dedicated to helping parents raise a happy child.

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